I’m writing
this for those of you with aging friends and relatives. Last week my daughter and I were visiting an
80-year-old friend. While we were there,
she took a phone call and it was clear the person on the other end demanded
something. Every time Friend tried to
get off the phone, the caller continued to engage her and, across the table
from us, Friend became flustered. I knew
something was wrong, and finally convinced Friend to hang up. As soon as she did the phone rang again, and this
time, I picked it up. A woman insisted
she needed to speak to Friend and when I told her Friend was no longer available,
she announced, “I know she is there, I was just speaking with her.”
The caller
identified herself as a representative of American Reader (which according to
the police is a legitimate publication company, although clearly, this person
was NOT employed by them). The woman asserted
Friend had ordered something and she was trying to cancel the order. She stated she had the last four digits of friend’s
credit card, but she needed Friend to verify the whole number before she could put
the cancellation through. When I told her
there was no way she was going to get Friend’s credit card number, the woman, rude
as they come to begin with, became belligerent and I hung up. Immediately, the same number called again and
I cut off the call without speaking. This happened
seven or eight more times. Finally, I
picked up the phone when it rang and said, “If you call this number again, I’m
calling the police.” She called again,
and I called the police.
The lovely
police officer who came to visit indicated that this scam has been prevalent in
our area lately. He reminded Friend of something that seems like a no-brainer,
but that I am suggesting everyone who reads this might share with those with those who may be vulnerable.
No legitimate company will act like this.
Giving the overbearing tactics, I’m sure the perpetrators’
theory is, “if we beat them down, they’ll give us what they want, just to make us
go away.”
Folks, outside
of my writing time, I work for a senior center.
The generation before us was trained to be polite, to listen to
authority. Our friend tried to be nice. “I
don’t remember ordering anything,” she said.
“I’m not sure where my credit card is right now.” Every well-mannered sentence she uttered
opened a door for the scammer to push further and I am not convinced, had we not been there, Friend wouldn't have given the woman what she wanted just to make her go away.
Check with
your parents, grandparents and elderly friends.
Remind them they are in charge, regardless of how abusive someone is on
the other side of the telephone line. Share no personal information over the
phone.
Don’t assume. Make sure they know.
13 comments:
This happens all the time to my mother-in-law. She knows they are scammers, but she still spends way to much time engaging them on the phone and trying to reason with them instead of hanging up immediately.
The one time she did fall for it was when someone sold her "a pre-paid funeral" over the phone. Sadly, this was done by a legitimate (but unscrupulous) local business. My husband had to march into their office and threaten them with a lawyer before they returned the money.
My mother got taken in one time like this but luckily came to her senses afterwards and cancelled the card. You're right about that generation. It's hard for them to be rude to these crooks and the telemarketers. But I'm always happy to do it for them, especially at dinnertime.
So glad you were there to help her! I work at a bank, and unfortunately I've seen a lot of elderly people scammed- and middle-aged and young!
Those scammers who prey on the elderly are really the lowest of the low, aren't they. I'm glad you were there with your friend.
Glad you were there. Scary that woman wouldn't give up.
Thank heavens you were there with your friend! :-( What scam - and without shame! Take care
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This hit such a note with me. I've recently helped my mother move my grandmother into an assisted-living facility. As part of that process we had to go through her mail and it was truly a disturbing and revealing process. There are so many people who live by preying off elderly people without the willpower or capacity to make clear decisions.
This is horrible. It makes me ill.
This is just among many scams aimed at the elderly. Some people are just horrible.
I'm so glad you were there. And called the police! Most people won't do that, but now there's a report and if the scammers get caught there's a paper trail. Good for you!
Hope you're well.
Oh god, what a horrible story. I'm so glad you were there, and had the presence of mind to put a stop to this. What's wrong with people??? I'm so glad you passed this on.
this kind of stuff "burns me up".
That's just horrible. I hope when those scammers get old that they get scammed. (That's a horrible things to say too, but...)
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